Leslie Ludy has written a host of books for young women. Young, Christian women who are presumably single. I own four:
Answering the Guy Questions
When Dreams Come True (co-written with her husband Eric)
I’ve read a bunch of her other books, though it’s been a while.
When God Writes Your Love Story (again, written with Eric)
The Lost Art of True Beauty
Leslie also has an online magazine called Set-Apart Girl, and a blog devoted to topics of interest for young, single Christian women.
Last week I was re-reading When Dreams Come True, which is an autobiography of the Ludy’s love story. Eric and Leslie alternate telling their story in different chapters. This time, something hit me that I had never realized before.
Leslie was never a single young woman.
She met Eric when she was around 16, and they began dating (or courting or whatever you want to call it) a few months before her 17th birthday. She got engaged at age 18, and married at 19. When Leslie was still single, she was a girl.
I find it very strange that a woman who has had no adult experience as a single person is writing so many popular evangelical books for young single women. It’s just as strange as a 21-year-old single, Joshua Harris, writing the top-selling Christian book on dating and relationships.
Now, I do realize that there are basic principles of life than can apply regardless of your age or marital status. However, I believe that when you’ve lived something, you have more wisdom and weightier advice to bring to a situation. This is why I’m not telling my friends how to raise their kids; I haven’t had kids, so I don’t really know what I’m talking about.
I wish Christian publishers would stop publishing books by under-qualified authors. It’s not healthy or helpful for us. And the damage is worse when the audience is young impressionable people who haven’t yet developed wisdom or discernment.
It’s going to be interesting re-reading other books by Leslie, having realized that she never was part of her target audience.